Heather Durr, nee Turner
The day before yesterday was my grandmother's 91st birthday. Here are a few things I know about my grandmother:
She was born and grew up in Algeria, ever proud of her English heritage (her parents came from a small town near Manchester), in a predominantly French colonial society. I don't know much else about her childhood, but in her twenties she married a Frenchman called Maurice Doreau, my grandfather.
As a young, attractive woman, one of the few who spoke English, and blessed with a fine pair of pins, she was very much in demand at dances with the English officers during the Second World War. For many of those young men she probably gave them their last taste of youth, beauty and fun. She often advised us to get up to as much as naughtiness possible whilst young to look back on in our old age. I've tried to follow that advice.
Also during the War, she helped her father smuggle secret messages and hide stranded Allied soldiers, in stories reminiscent of scenes from "Allo Allo".
The War left her with an abiding fear of loud noises, thanks to incidents such as my mother's birth in hospital in Algiers, as bombs fell all around and everyone else huddled in the basement for safety. Her coping strategy for loud thunder storms: lock herself in the loo and sing until they had passed.
She experienced her fair share of tragedy: when she left her first husband (my grandfather) for the man who would be her second she begged to be allowed to take her two daughters. She wouldn't see them again for over a decade. She gave birth to 7 children; one little boy died shortly after birth, her only other son died at 18. My cousin, I suspect her favourite grandchild, died in a motorbike crash when he was 13.
When we visited as children she would lay on a feast, tell naughty jokes, pop her false teeth to make us scream, feed us forbidden sweets and do this funny thing with her knees and hands - flapper style - that never failed to have us laughing hysterically. Her husband was a frightening presence: old (or perhaps not so old), large and prickly, he mumbled at us incomprehensibly and then gave us little presents and went out to the garden to pull up carrots for my sister.
She used to send my father outrageous lacy, feathery, sequinned knickers for his birthday, because it amused her that as a barrister he received briefs.
When I was five I went to spend a week with her, during which time she spoiled me outrageously and I earned her admiration by negotiating arrivals, passport control and baggage reclaim alone, the airline having forgotten that I was travelling as an unaccompanied child.
She died yesterday morning, having remained independent, living in her own home, and abosolutely lucid until her last few days.
I have her hands.
5 Comments:
Sorry to hear about her passing. I will light a candle.
Lovely recollections.
What a lovely post!
Sorry for your loss - what a wonderful woman she must have been!
Lovely post Rebecca - it's pretty much as I'll remember her too.
But she will always be the best Granny ever for humouring a little boy whenever he wet his bed - "It's toy bunny again, isn't it? We must get a cork and stick it up him to stop him". She said it so straight that I truly believed that I had got away with it.
That and her dirty jokes, yes...
Bro.
Very sorry to read about your loss. Thank you for a beautiful description of the memories of your grandmother (Marie recommended you). As for your father receiving briefs -- well indeed!
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